And I don't mean the "antis are mean to me online" kind of bad day, I mean "I was doxxed and people are messaging my irl socials" bad day, "everyone I love is actively suicidal" bad day, "I just lost everything I worked on for the past year and half of my close friends to a mass ban wave, and this will happen again" bad day. These last five years were quite a ride.
Honestly, this whole "you're one bad day away from becoming a rapist" argument is really ridiculous. I've had so many bad days. Especially in map discourse. Especially given that all my underage crushes are also in map discourse, and I'm constantly worried about them. I'd be a serial rapist if it actually worked they way they said it does.
One of the hard things I understood as a map activist is that I'm also fighting for bad maps. Maps I don't want around me for whatever reason, the ones that commit CSA, align with antis and doxx, hurt more people in other ways.
Why? Because what I work for is a better future to live in as a map. Not a personal utopia for people I like. Because, whether I like it or no, some maps are gonna be bad people. And the safer it is to be a map, the more bad people will come out about being maps.
I could dig my heel in and find out ways to exclude these people from mapness, come up with more and more intricate definitions of who can be considered a map. But I don't want to, because this is not how identities work, and if I can share being trans with bigots and rapists, I should ditch the double standard I have for mapness and accept that I share this identity with some bad people too.
Trying to define your activism in ways that would prohibit everyone who doesn't meet your standard of purity from benefitting will create a rich ground for abuse, because you will attract people who are specifically interested in exclusionism. We had that in post Tumblr communities, when some people tried to make a jump from "we don't want pro cs" to "we don't want anyone who questions contact stances".
There's also no meaningful pro map social change that would favor only maps that are good people. Such a change would improve life for everyone. So all actions aimed at exclusion aren't activism, but local infighting.
I'm sorry I like awful things. Attracted to taboo porn. I don't try to be evil, it just happens sometimes.
I'm a weird creepy trans girl thats a sub/bottom into maps, especially other queer people. Also a Little
I try not to hurt others with my perversions. Consent is very important to me, gross kinks or otherwise. I guess i just want someone to talk to about my attractions.
Something about I don't condone any of the acts described in the posts on my page to be done irl.