@cummies @Cody @Borbo @Chizu @applejack @miria @ojamajosweet There's nothing crazy about being obsessed with a sexual thing without wanting to take part in it yourself. Yaoi and BL are entirely written by straight women for straight women but are all about gay boys being gay.
Hot take but there are different reasons why someone might be interested in lolicon and shotacon as a genre. Being a pedophile is a major one for sure that many people are in denial of, but at the same time there's also a lot of people who are only interested in lolicon/shotacon because pedophilia lends itself well to a dom/sub relationship dynamic for narrative, roleplay, or shipping purposes. There's lots different ways to create dom/sub dynamics, but the ones people choose to use tells you very little about what they're actually interested in outside of mere roleplay or stories, it's just a mater of taste.
Some people just have a generalized taboo kink and pedophilia is a heavyweight in that regard because that's how our society today is configured.
That being said most lolicons are definitely pedophiles.