It troubles me deeply that Bocchi's parents know that she has problems making friends and socializing, and instead of helping her they just stare at her like a strange bug...
And it troubles me more the fact that... it actually happens, parents do be like that.
i kinda was like that some years ago too.. but i changed.. i'm still not good with socializing to unkown ppl.. but i think i changed a lot. and i think if i received pressure from outside, i would closed myself even more.
urgh.. sometimes i can't put my thoughts in good words.. sorry
@rick well, talking to her instead of just staring and pretending nothing bad happens would be a good start.
If i were to have a kid with such problems i would try to help in any meaninful way, of course not by forcing random friends into her life, but mostly trying to put her in situations where it's easier for her to make friends, maybe putting her into some kind of club or fun extra-curricular activities would help... see what interests her and try to make her get together with people that may share her interests, idk.
Sometimes random events like bumping into random strangers help, but not always and they are rare events, and the pasivity of the parents really troubles me.
@Reluctant_Weeb @rick i think good part of the difficulty that people like that (like me) has to initiate relationships is the lack of self esteem, and the lack of self esteem stems from the lack of perceived accomplishments. Despite her being good at the guitar, she has problems with that because i think she didn't had a proper route or path of milestones to gauge her progress.
Parents can definitely be a problem when they insert themselves into developing relationships, my parents did this multiple times. Bocchi's a great example of a issue that a lot of socially inept people face; they cannot initiate. They lack the skills to start relationships or lead conversations. In the show that doesn't happen, but basically the best case scenario for such a person happens, someone else pressures them into a social group that they already wanted to be in. A club definitely seems like a good way to try and get around this, as it's much easier to start talking to people when you know everybody shares an interest, whatever the club is about serves as a perfect pre-set conversation topic.. Though a child might resist joining a club if they have social anxiety.