The thing about the cenobites that few understand, is that when they say that they appear as angels to others they're not being euphemistic or talking about personal tastes, they literally appear differently to different people, and do different things, even beautiful things, as opposed to horrific. The book has this. I think they give you what you truly want, and if you have low self esteem they will give you the punishment you feel you deserve, no matter how much you beg for it to stop.