I DON'T have to be hurt by my ex gaslighting me
I DON'T have to feel like there's something wrong with me for not being polyamorus
I DON'T have to feel worthless for living in a society that is antithetical to "goodness"
@icedquinn Yea but worse. He did a bunch of sex stuff with me (which I enjoyed) but he never told me he was in a relationship with someone else. When he did it was the next day and I kind of rolled with it but did NOT feel good...but he told me he was going to leave him for me. He was direct about that. This isn't me reading into things. He said that shit. Meanwhile he's dragging me to events and giving me lots of party favors and he's sitting down and having talks with me about how he wants me to be happy with other people (fuck other people) and so I DO and then he gets jealous, and possessive, and starts poisoning the well between me and whoever I'm fucking with at that moment. All in the back, all in secret. He kept a lot of secrets. Never ever was straight up, everything, EVERYTHING, was behind multiple layers of irony. And he had the audacity to say *I* was "too safe", when he's the one who refuses to take his mask off, ever. Everything is a joke, or a "story", he will never be honest. He is a broken person.
@Jazzy_Butts @icedquinn sounds like they didnt want a polyamorus relationship. sounds like they wanted to cheat on you and force you into being ok with that.
He kept a lot of secrets. Never ever was straight up, everything, EVERYTHING, was behind multiple layers of irony. And he had the audacity to say I was “too safe”, when he’s the one who refuses to take his mask off, ever. Everything is a joke, or a “story”, he will never be honest.
I’m sorry you had to deal with this person. I’ve meet many people who just cant say their honest feelings. they are the worst to deal with. cause you dont want to take a joke to seriously and hurt the relationship, but that the same time some jokes go too far.
@Skadi @icedquinn I put my heart on my sleeve years later, tried reconnecting, pleaded with him, literally, like "Please X, please, I'm not saying you have to live any certain way, I respect you, there's so many good things about you, I just am not Poly, it's a personal thing."
and he would say back something like "If you want to be unhappy forever that's up to you."
You shouldn't have ever had to go through that
He's a piece of shit, and you are leagues better than he could ever be
I wish you healing and health, my friend
@AbNormal @icedquinn @Jazzy_Butts I completely agree! sending hugs 
@AbNormal @icedquinn @Skadi Thankyou I've never really faced this stuff like this so your kindness is very appreciated rn
@Skadi @icedquinn Thankyou for the encouragement, believe it or not I don't get that much anywhere irl, I was also surrounded by narcissistic friends (I set myself up for failure by thinking it was right for me to give my attention to "broken" people in an effort to "fix" them) and so long story short I had to jettison my friend group and have been alone irl for a very long time, being aware of my attractions to some humans people call "kids" (I don't consider 12-13-14 a kid but whatever) didn't help either, made me afraid I couldn't trust anyone because if I trusted someone I might confide in them and then they might freak out...my old friend group *kind of* knew, and would make fun of me for it, I was young enough back then that I could just own it and laugh along and say "Yeaaa dawg you know it!" and people would shake their heads and do that chuckle sigh thing people do when someone is adorable and encourageable...but I'm like 30 now people don't think that shit's cute they get creeped out...but I really do feel like I'm just a normal guy/person and that everyone else has these feelings too but they just don't talk about it....and then I feel like Ledger Joker when he was talking about One Bad Day and I'm like.....is that me? Am I the Joker?
@Jazzy_Butts @icedquinn
“If you want to be unhappy forever that’s up to you.”
wow. thats unbelievable. I don’t get why he would be like that. If my partner is not comfortable with something I’d drop it. not tell them they will “unhappy forever”. Again I’m sorry you had to deal with that person. damn that really is just unbelievable to me.
Please keep being you. dont let that person change you into someone you’re not. I like you just the way you are Jazzy!