It's really damaging to have a self-abasing mother, always saying she looks gross or is not good enough, and because that's what you were exposed to during your developmental years that's what ingrains itself inside your head as like your perception of what women are, or at least what motherly women are. It's like bitch how pathetic are you grow the fuck up have some confidence be cool be smooth have some class you have a kid to raise educate him teach him that it's cool to be cool don't teach him fucked up shit about how you think you're worthless (because of the way you were raised, not your fault and not the point).
a worthless person cries in their room alone and doesn't let anybody else have access to them during that period "because nobody would want to be around such a thing"
a strong mother deals with her emotions in a healthy way even if it includes discussing them with her child instead of locking her child out closing her child away she brings her child in addresses her emotions with them calmly and helps them understand her as well as their own self.
