I think my mother thinks she's not a racist because she thinks that black people are people just like white people but what I've tried to explain to her that I've been taught that she doesn't seem to want to listen to (I think it's because she's full white and I'm not so I'm willing to listen) is that the black experience is fundamentally different from the white experience in Western society and white people (most of them at least) simply do not take this into account because they're not willing or able to fathom it/vent also she strangely doesn't comprehend that there are black families out there that are way more functional than our white family was and they don't use screaming or hitting on their kids, she insists that Black culture, therefore all black families, are abusive toward their children secretly in the privacy of their homes.