How do you deal with a person who ignores what you say?

When I had 18th birthday, I remember a moment that broke me. I was with my mother at a restaurant, and she handed me a gift. I remember her asking me a week earlier what do I want.

I was a happy kid with no needs, so I said "gaming mouse" fully expecting to be happy with anything including the cheapest shit mouse I could immagine. I also said, whatever you choose, just don't give me some jewelry.

So guess what I got. A necklace. That broke me. She willingly chose to give me the SINGLE THING I said I do not want. Nothing would be ok. A candy would be ok. A nice burger would be ok, but ahe chose to break the single instruction I gave her.

The same thing happened when we were at a museum. She wanted to take a photo of me. I hate getting pictures, but I knew it matters to her, so I said ok, but do NOT put it on facebook.

She send me the photos over facebook mere hours later. She not only broke the rule, but she made sure I knew it.

WHY IS SHE LIKE THIS? Does she realy hate me so much? I cannot trust my own mother because she ignores even the simplest and dumbest things I consider important. That leaves a scar.