A useful lesson but things like this are why dating your own age seems to be too much of a mismatch. Guys are terrible at understanding what their girl wants in a relationship. Granted, this guy should have his head out of his ass, but everyone is growing and maturing so slowly it’ll take years for him to pick up.
Also she’s already tried this with enough guys to have expectations of what he wants. That’s too much, that’s why these people probably stumble around wondering why they never feel romance or passion.
When you’re inexperienced, the “first” of everything is magical. Your poor lifestyle, shitty kitchen breaking down on date night, your shoddy car stranding you a few blocks from home so you have to walk home in the softly falling snow, they’re all experiences that are cheapened when you have them with dozens of strangers.
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As a virgin, this sound unbelievably terrifying.
@LukeAlmighty When in bed you can go a very, very long way just thinking about what she likes. In his case he listened and considered her thing like a guy.
Dudes take the things girls say as machine code, as if she said “I want a bored lay” for real. That’s retarded, should’ve known better. This is why it sucks nobody’s dating anymore, this principle is an early dating lesson he should have picked up at 15, not 22 and definitely not in bed.
Usually it’s learned when your HS gf says “do you love me?” and you autistically say “well, hmmm….I’m not sure, I don’t know what that feels like, I think so but that’s a big step….“ and she calls you a bastard
@Dicer @LukeAlmighty Dating in the old sense is better, yeah, but it’s essentially practice relationships. Lots to learn from that, and if you want a world without it then you’ll have to have very rigorous safeguards to keep young couples from splitting
@Dicer @LukeAlmighty Pretty much. That’s why I said HS relationship. Those relationships are (depending on area) generally quite chaste. (in white schools). In the schools I know right now, about 2/3 of the girls aren’t open to having sex unless they’re in a relationship for 1 year plus, and the girls who do put out are known for it.
Again, depends entirely on area, culture, etc. but the majority of girls here aren’t profligate whores from the moment they possibly can. That metamorphosis generally starts if they leave their home to go to college, because they lose their support structure and accountability. But that’s a whole different thing.
Next time she calls you out about a "bored lay". Just grab you phone while on top of her and do some poasting and watch some youtube before you decide to fire off the canon.
