I’d put this forth for all the guys in their early 20’s talking about how they’d be totally willing to get married “if I found the right one” - you may be due to revamp your approach to dating. If you were to imagine an outside consultant coming in and advising you on a career, what would he say about your approach to searching, sorting, and testing wife candidates?
Would he say “you don’t appear to be searching in any meaningful way whatsoever”? ‘Cause that’s kind of our default. We just go through our day to day grind with our passive wife-radar-array sweeping in the background, but never really actively hunting for targets.
When I got w/ current gf I did feel genuinely bad at the thought that I was diverting her from a dude in her own bracket, but the more I talked about her experiences the more it became apparent that all the guys she knew were apparently more invested in playing dark souls with their friends online than keeping a standing date with a woman. That’s for the special subset of guys she’d meet and know, which rarely advanced past the most basic texting level because she’s very passive and shy….and so are they.
RT: https://poa.st/objects/bbd86096-aa2e-47d5-ae52-f7277af45685
We don’t talk about it much because nobody likes to admit it, but the majority of guys really, REALLY have little idea how to handle a woman, and they end up making very costly mistakes when they have to catch up on 10 years of dating experience when get their first gf at 23.
Lots of them want a dude-fren they can creampie, that’s pretty much the overarching issue. They want to be able to have a “low maintenance” girl who just comes over to sit around and do nothing with them on a friday night….kind of hard to make her think too highly of you when that’s all you offer.
You don’t need to be in the impressive courtship phase for long, but you DO need to find a target worthy of your investment and knock her socks off with a few good dates. Doing something cool and romantic gains you the approval and support of her extended friend network. Treating her like a blasé booty call leads them to chip away at your relationship. Taking her out on cool things means that they’ll passively support you as good guy she can’t let go.
@MeBigbrain It’s not insurmountable, you just can’t afford to be retarded. The cycle that keeps playing out is that the zoomer boys are FINALLY getting a gf in their early 20’s and then treating her like a man.
Woah, can you believe that she doesn’t want to get taco bell and watch netflix 4 nights a week? Can you believe “I’m playing COD w/ my buddies, just come over and we’ll figure out what to do when I’m done” doesn’t really make a girl fall in love with you?
Because my buddies didn’t. They really actually got blindsided by the dumping
@WashedOutGundamPilot @MeBigbrain
Please, could you write the positive examples next to the negative ones?
