The constant-threats-to-defederate thing is going to kill this place, seriously.
Defederating an instance is an extreme measure and it should only be taken in extreme circumstances.
Finding out I might stop getting posts from people I explicitly follow because they happen to be on an instance being defederated by mine all because a bunch of admins I don't know got in a spat over a user I don't follow is just about the most annoying value proposition imaginable.
"ActivityPub is just like e-mail" well guess what, I don't recall a single instance of gmail silently dropping e-mails sent from another e-mail server because the admins disagree.
The notion of even trying to deal with it as a user is utterly absurd. I'm supposed to find an instance that DOESN'T defederate? That's posted on a server-by-server basis, there's no tool that's like "here's everyone I follow, find me an instance where I can continue following them all"
What a stupid thing.
You’ll need to self-host or use BlueSky… 😬
@Bryan yeah like.. No. If I could self host for $10/mo maybe but last I looked anything that's managed is closer to $50
@rodhilton @Bryan Self-hosting here (DigitalOcean) and can confirm... I've been paying about $25/mo.
It's too expensive. And I don't really care about social media enough to move to a free instance. So I'll probably just quit mastodon in another month or so. Maybe I'll stick around if something here magically changes
@notroot @rodhilton @Bryan idk if you guys can see this (lol) but I set up an instance with fedi.express. Digital Ocean I was paying $12/month for and there's a free single-user method with Oracle. Just gotta pay for a domain name. If you're just going for a single user thing I would recommend it. You're far less likely to get defederated that way, unless it's by instances that defederate ones specifically because they don't defederate anyone else xD but if you're on your own instance you have a lot more power over what you do and don't see.
