So it would seem that I just legitimately do not have enough ram on my phone anymore. Apps use too much memory these days. Everywhere I look says 4gb is not enough for multitasking.
Well, at least the new model of my current phone with 8gb is only $100 rn.
@irie heaven forbid i want to listen to music while i go between looking where my uber driver is and browsing fedi. that'll be 8 gorillion rams sir.