Every time I thought I found an enclave of my tribe irl they turned out to be self harming self hating maniacs who I then had to distance myself from.
This isn't to say that self harm makes you a bad person, just that it was a factor in these instances. Really what was the final straw was that these people were disingenuous to an unacceptable degree.
Mainly gaming/nerd instance for people who value free speech. Everyone is welcome.