@bitterblossom I've got some that fit comfortably but if I relax too much they pop out T-T I have to sit on something to relax but then I can't leave it in while I do stuff around the house

@Jazzy_Butts if they are even capable of popping out, it either isn't a plug (there's no "stem" behind the bulb that locks it in place) or it isn't nearly big enough.

@bitterblossom one of these, and an egg shaped one that's made of a softer silicone and slightly bigger

@Jazzy_Butts havent used one of those funky plugs

but that specifically i notice has no real stem, it's about the same width as the bulb part. the wider end is to keep it from going in and vanishing, but having a thicker stem like that is gonna help dilation and do nothing to actually anchor it.

this style is what you use/train on.
the stem is the same but the bulb gets thicker and bigger. the dilation training isn't from having it in your butt all day but from regular insertion/extraction of the bulb.

that style you had i would say use later to train your butt to gape constantly if that was a goal, but even then... that's a pleasure toy, you'd have to hold it in with panties or find one with a much thicker bulb than the stem bit

@bitterblossom I have a medium size rex from bd and the knot is almost as big as my fist, i kind of doubt I'll ever be able to take it safely but I've seen guys do it so i know it's possible:(

@Jazzy_Butts i had (might still have it if its buried in boxes) a vibrating silicone plug bigger than my fist.

it was fun.
never did get it in, probbaly never will, but just trying to sit on it and being painfully impaled after a session of dilation and having it make a mess of lube everywhere and cycle through different vibe settings... 'twas glorious.