When I was smol all the femboys I wanted to date who were my age wouldn't date me and would go on dates with 30-50yo dudes who would bdsm their frail bodies and I could never understand why that was what they were into but now I get it (I think)
Follow
One day I was hanging out and my bf (who was older, but a bottom) showed me a random picture of our other friend who was my age, naked in a stress position with latex straps and a ball gag, he was immediately like WHERE DID YOU GET THAT and I was just like 
Because I had no idea about anything at that point, so I was like, in shock, and I met so many other femboys who were like that, into being like, humiliated and stuff. And now I'm finally old enough and dead inside enough to not be like "Noooo you don't deserve thattttt" when a boi is like "punch me please", now I'm iust like "ok" *pumch*