I hate when people are like "How you doing? How you been?", I used to do this myself, and it's so fucking annoying and I realized that and stopped. Now, instead of trying to manipulate people into entertaining me by asking them zero effort questions like "How ya doin??". I now know to OFFER them something, I say, "Hey, I'm doing X, it reminds me of Y and I like it because Z. What do you think of X?". It shows I'm willing to share, that I'm not low in confidence or filled with shame or shyness, lets you get to know me, and shows that I have a will to do things, and have something going on inside my head.