I'm going to stop saying the nword in private irl, I obviously don't say it publicly. Sometimes in private with family I say the nword, and well, they've started saying it too. They're liberals. When they say it, it sounds wrong, and they get a kick out of it because they are oblivious that they're doing it wrong. Like when Squanchy teaches Beth how to speak Squanch and she says "I squanch my family" and he got really uncomfortable because she did it wrong and there's no way to explain it, just wrong. Point is I'm going to stop using the nword I don't want them doing it even in private they don't know what they're doing, this is a technique above their power level. Not that it matters but I'm the only mixed race person in the family.