I just learned something shocking. I have to give up the moral high ground, I have to give up my victim mentality, my self righteous mentality, that's why people say don't be a victim and you're not a victim you're a survivor etc. grief is an excuse, victimhood is an excuse, you're no victim. Get your shit together. Bad things happen. That's not all life is. Admit you have good things and stop being miserable. /r