@Katie I'm not saying anything negative about the person who was victimized, only my own experience. I was so scared of being outed by creeps and weirdos who do electronic trickery to contact your family or job or something, that I flat out told my immediate family, it took time and patience and clarity and tact, but I am fully known, and fully accepted (not tolerated, but accepted, and loved) by the people who matter most in my life. It was scary as fuck, but I refused to be outed by strangers, if I was going to be outed it would be by myself.
That's what I did.
3 people know. 1 was on purpose and I was so terrified I broke out in hives.
I have had guns in my face and attacked with machetes and I was never more scared than that confession.
It worked out well enough though cause, well, I'm here still.