@LukeAlmighty @Paradox I find vague speech usually isn't actually as vague as most people think if they can read subtext but maybe I just had one too many Lit classes. That said directness is preferable, but choosiness diction-wise is a nice way to soften blows without compromising on clarity, as is being empathic and self-reflective in your answer. I told her that she shouldn't feel bad about it because she may have not intended to come off that way, and that it did probably has a lot more to do with my willingness to have tested the limit and become more certain about my preferences. I think that frames thing in such a way that avoids it all brcoming a guilt-ridden spat down the line.