the concept that women are fucked up but men have to contort themselves to attract them anyway because men are the ones with more agency is fundamentally flawed, because the reward on offer is not actually a quality woman. it's a fucked up woman

so, the men who are going to play the dancing clown to attract women are the ones who are fine with that reward, because they don't want to keep her around, they just want to fuck her a few times and move on to the next. it's completely predictable with a few moments' thought

the problem at its core *is* a lack of quality women, and individual men have no power at all to change that

and contrary to popular wisdom it was not men who kept women more or less in line historically, but other women. the social structures women built to police themselves were not imposed by men to begin with, and won't be imposed by men again. it's not that men *can't* police women, but that arrangement is an entirely different one