Expanding on an unpopular topic, because everyone likes to say “eh who cares if you’re popular, it’s gay anyways” but popularity is power of sorts. Charisma is an exquisitely helpful skill to have, and I want our boys to respect its utility in their lives. All my interesting jobs & adventures came about because of a chance, an opportunity that would not have been extended to me if I were an unlikable weirdo.
Sometimes you’re an unlikable weirdo, though. Doesn’t mean you got to stay that way. That’s why you can’t afford to be stupid, too. You have to be capable of extending some self awareness, engage that white man’s IQ of yours and catch yourself before you start educating the women about the finer points of re-soldering a PS2 to get rid of a region lock so you can play pirated video games. I think a smart guy can mentally power his way out of a lot of those nerdy, awkward pitfalls.
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@WashedOutGundamPilot
2 things I wish someone truly took the time to explain to me.
1) people are stupid animals. Most of the shit they say is a lie, but they don't know it, because they are literally too dumb to see it.
2) literally this. That charisma and looks are an asset of equal value as intelligence, and you cannot replace one with the other, no matter how strong.
@LukeAlmighty Looks aren’t so important in a guy, you can really overcome a lot of ugliness by being the guy people want around. Are you funny? Are you prompt to help people? Do you look outside yourself? Do you make people more relaxed when you walk in the door on a particularly stressful day?
There are a lot of avenues to be liked, but the overriding factor is stepping outside yourself and figuring out if you’re being the kind of person you would want around.