@Aldo2
You must understand already, that the point of gender =/= sex argument means, that if you spend enough effort truly trying to look and behave as the category you don't belong in, (shoe), you should be treated as a part of that category as default.
That was your argument, not mine. I just illustrated it on a topic, where I know advanced mimicry is in fact possible.
@Snidely_Whiplash @Aldo2
Yes, that is their claim as far as I understand it.
So, was the allegory a good one?
@Aldo2
On other topics, you say "this cake looks like a shoe". You don't say "this cake is a shoe", and you definitely don't behave as if the cake was unironically a shoe. Why? Because the inert properties of the cake make it useless as a shoe.
So, why do you think gender =/= sex is an argument for that guy is a women and treat it as one, but taste =/= wearableness is an argument for wear the cake?