Inside the queer community there's a tier list of which identities take priority over others. It goes approximately in the same order as the letters in "LGBT" and some extended acronyms go.

It has jack shit to do with who's respected most or hated most by the general society, it doesn't correlate well with any peculiarities of existing as queer among cishets.

But it exists, and it affects the way queer people see each other and treat each other. It affects your likelihood to be listened to and helped by other queer people. It affects conflict resolution.

Attempts to talk about it get shut down with "oh do you think X identity oppresses Y identity???" even when nobody mentioned oppression at all, only inner community hostility and being accused of stolen valor for relating to other queer people.

From the way some identities are prioritized and others are put down, I think what's favored is perceived lack of agency in your situation (I can elaborate on that if necessary) which feels like it may be connected to medicalism. There's also some glorification of tradition there ("transsexual" sounds more old timey and respectable than "xenogender"). Overall, it comes off as an attempt to reuse right wing values for queer purposes. And it's unfortunate that this phenomenon gets painted as "social justice gone too far" in some cases. It's literally the opposite.

On lack of agency.

Most of the queer community still operates on the assumption that true queerness is something that happens to you by the force outside of your control, and the more you seem like you had some choice in your queer identity, the less deserving of support and attention you are.

By this logic, monosexual gay and lesbian identities (in someone who's not trans and not intersex) are seen as a pinnacle of queerness because they have a long history of being discussed in context of your involuntary needs and inability to participate in heterosexuality (this attitude does not extend to aro and ace identities, because most people still struggle understanding the difference between orientation and behavior and view these identities as a preference for casual sex or celibacy instead of it having anything to do with feelings towards a potential partner).

Bisexuality is seen as suspicious due to a hypothetical option to still engage solely in straight relationships, pansexuality - double suspicious, because not only you're presumed to have an option to live as straight, you're also actively choosing a new strange word.

Trans and intersex people are associated with active rejection of what's seen as the natural way of being (either presumed to be granted to them by default or by nonconsensual medical intervention).

The society, of course, goes along with this structure, because seeing queerness as a curse rather than an active choice is a common form of low key homophobia.

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