Maybe talking to foids just isn't for me. It's so stressful :tetosadd:
@teto it's gonna be alright man, just make sure to keep talking, don't try to be too defensive about it, just change topics if it comes to it.
@themilkman you say that while I stare at one of my anime figure preorders that I might have to cancel now
@themilkman does that actually depend? She wouldn't even approve of Westoid media merch
@teto @themilkman Is it because she thinks it's childish, or because she thinks it's a waste of money? If it's the latter then that's a green flag if you ask me.
@Jens_Rasmussen @themilkman man is supposed to make money and reproduce not make money and have fun. That sort of thing
@teto @themilkman "You should only work and have sex with me."
Wow, she's that horny?
@Jens_Rasmussen @themilkman no she's approaching her 30s and looking for a husband for life
@Jens_Rasmussen @themilkman pretty sure sex would be nonexistent if it isn't for making a baby
@teto @themilkman So if there's no fertility, then you are expected to work 14 hours per day!?
Not wife-material. 😤
@Jens_Rasmussen @themilkman no but she has sort of autistic ideals while I have autistic hobbies
@teto @themilkman She can be a bit more realistic. People need to have fun and unwind after work, surely she can understand that.
@Jens_Rasmussen @themilkman her reaction made me want to hide in the underground. Makes me feel like I'm back in highschool, fleeing to my nerd friends. Except those are all now on fedi and discord instead of in my class
@teto @themilkman Maybe you should tell her what you think? And that it doesn't prevent you from providing for your household.
@Jens_Rasmussen @teto i would say just wait for her to bring up the topic again later, and by then you would have had a better response for it, you would also be much calmer in your response since time passed by
@themilkman @Jens_Rasmussen I'll buy a gun and blow my brains out when that time comes
@teto @Jens_Rasmussen chill down bro, by then she would know more about you and wouldn't have those assumptions.

besides take it from her point of view, maybe the fact that she said she is willing to learn more about it, is that she doesn't really believe you are that kind of person.
but because she wants to be safe, she wants to be proven wrong in her beliefs about weebs.

remember it's not like she is just gonna end it all after all that time, might have been just a week but she did have a good time talking to you didn't she?

she specifically asked for you, even if she is slightly annoyed with you being a weeb, i don't think for her it's enough for a dealbreaker.

if she said she wants you to drop it altogether maybe, but instead she said she wants to understand it better.

what i say, stay away from the topic until she brings it up, or once you feel comfortable about it just bring it up with her and introduce her to some of the classic movies.
@themilkman @Jens_Rasmussen so does that mean I should cancel my waifu figure preorders and get rid of the nendos?
@teto @themilkman Cancel the preorder, because you should never preorder, but don't get rid of what you already have.
@Jens_Rasmussen @themilkman nigga figures are always preorder or they are second hand
@teto @themilkman I wouldn't know. I've never bought a figure because merch doesn't mean anything to me. I look at my screen 90% of the time.
@Jens_Rasmussen @themilkman that's where they stand. Infront of the monitor. Tbh she has every right to call it quits with me over weebs shit. I have quite the coomer history

@teto @Jens_Rasmussen @themilkman idk why everyone is trying to tell you stay with this girl man it's not worth it if she's gonna be all pissy and controlling. You shouldn't have to get rid of things you find cool and joy in just because a woman is a prude. If she's a keeper then she'll at the very least be alright with it as long as you keep a good balance.

There is a certain element of needing to change in a relationship, but it shouldn't be changing things you enjoy. It should be about improving personality flaws and improving bad habits, and figuring out how to work together and make compromises. It sounds like she needs a long way to go in that department from what I've heard. Just saying. Or you're not compatible and the longer you force it, the more painful it'll be when it ends.

@beardalaxy @teto @themilkman Buying plastic figures is a bad habit to begin with. 😤

t. doesn't have any sense or appreciation for decoration
@Jens_Rasmussen @beardalaxy @themilkman there's not much more to it other than feeling like you "own" a piece of that anime girl irl

@teto @Jens_Rasmussen @themilkman i just like the way they look, i think they are fun to have.

men aren't allowed to have hobbies when they are with women who don't have any.

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@teto @Jens_Rasmussen @themilkman next thing you know she is going to start being like "i think you spend too much time doing XYZ and it is ruining our relationship" and you'll be a glorified lap dog who slaves away at a job for a chick who doesn't give two shits about you besides giving her kids and giving her money, which means you're not going to have a whole lot of say in what happens to those kids either.

i get wanting to have a relationship and a family and such, but if it's all sorts of fucked up there is no point in it. it will only cause you and your progeny misery.

don't just assume shit either though, if she's actually already commanding things of you then that's not good, but if she's not then just relax a little and be yourself and see how far it goes. maybe there's the chance she's more lenient than you think she is. but idk man if she's like forbidding you from doing things already that's really not a good sign at all. all my mates who had relationships like that saw them crumble.

@beardalaxy @Jens_Rasmussen @themilkman all the signs seem to go towards the "commanding wife" sort of deal. But she hasn't actually commanded me to do anything really. She just honestly told me her perception of what an anime fan is to her. It was just so negative that it shocked me I guess
@teto @beardalaxy @Jens_Rasmussen @themilkman First don't get your tizzy in knot over this. Second never ever become some foid's project. Most who do this are either cucks are habitual criminals.

@teto @Jens_Rasmussen @themilkman just be chill, a lot of people have negative perceptions of entire groups of people but are more willing to interact with others who still interact with/enjoy those things but don't make it obvious or make it their whole personality.

like, my family and irl friends all know i have weird and particular interests but they don't see me as "FURRY" they see me as "BEARD" so, even though they might think it's a little weird, they still like me and enjoy my company. i have relatively based friends and family though so idk maybe that's not everyone out there.

maybe you should ask her what she enjoys doing or if she collects anything. try and ask questions about those interests of hers, why she does it, what does this term mean, her favorite thing about it, etc. even if it's something you aren't into whatsoever. that might open her up a little bit. if she gives short answers or non-answers then you know, maybe she's not a bad girl or anything like that, but she's clearly not invested enough in the relationship to have any sort of REAL relationship. even if she's an introvert, you gotta' be willing to actually put in effort.

idk this is all coming from a guy who has been mostly maidenless for over a decade though so maybe it's not great advice. i just really don't want to get in a relationship with someone who isn't going to actually like ME and i think that's a solid enough way to go about things.

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