@Forestofenchantment is it a dualsense? because that one is weird, i don't like it. the ds4 is the sweet spot for me.
@Forestofenchantment dang, yeah you must have pretty small hands haha. i guess the best solution would be to either get a ps3 controller since they're a lot smaller or an 8bitdo controller that's smaller. then just use an adapter or something. you won't have the touchpad for games that need it though :P
@Forestofenchantment yeah man those dog nose sticks are awful when they get older especially, they get so gross lol. there are probably some replacement sticks you could buy. they're just the rubber/plastic parts. you just open the controller, pop off the sticks and pop on the new ones.
you can use the ds4 sticks in the ds3 as well, they're just a little bit shorter so you have limited range. depending on the game you're playing (or if you can calibrate the stick on your pc or whatever) it might not matter but yeah.
if you want to get really crazy with it, you can also clean the stick mechanisms with alcohol and then use some graphite powder to keep them smooth. had to do that with an old ps3 controller my friend had otherwise the sticks would just stick in the corners lol.