@zemichi the only thing i would consider gay is those futas where the futa has no female organs, which is essentially a tranny.
The thing you mention i give it a pass because the male is not in his own body, the physiology is not the same so the brain would not react the same anyways, the male pride is intact because the original envelope is still intact.
If I were to vote for one (I can't vote) it would be body swap.
I don't think anybody can justify mind controlling/possession of a female and getting fucked like a woman. It's one thing if the character is raped or forced into being into a female vessel. But in the other cases a dude is going outta his way to be fucked as a woman then hanging out the rest of the day like a man. It's a dude fucking other dudes.
Fucking nonhuman entities in the male forms is gay too I don't care if they're not human. If they could be female and you're fugging them while they're male it's gay