@Dovahkiin @Zealist @KryptoBlok @xianc78 @sickburnbro @SuperLutheran That feeling you're having is called tentatio.
Romans 13 tells us that all authority is established by God, naturally we'd think then that means we'll always have faithful rulers which obviously isn't the reality of things. To combat this assumption we need to understand that what is 'good' isn't always pleasant. We suffer and go through sanctification for our good but we don't like it while it happens, this doesn't mean sanctification is evil or unjust.
We should also remember that our rulers also have free will, meaning that although God has placed them in authority for His purpose they are free to disobey and work against Him. Not to mention that an evil ruler may be a punishment for the sins of the people.
As for resisting per verse 2, remember that God comes first, which means that if the ruler commands you to do something that would cause you to disobey God then you must instead disobey the ruler. Paul is not telling us that we are 100% forced to obey the ruler in all things, instead we are not to use our faith as an excuse to not do things. For example we cannot use being Christians as an excuse to not pay taxes because the ruler will spend it on things that conflict with our faith. But if we are commanded to murder, for example, we obey God's command to not murder and do so civilly rather than violently.
As for your last point, I think you're looking for a way to ignore what Paul is saying by playing with definitions, I get it since I've also tried to do the same thing but try as I might I couldn't get away from what scripture said and just had to accept what was written.