@matrix rather, it's
misogynist man: replies seriously to her remarks, wiling to discuss them like a fellow adult (reality: man isn't sold on her pants, is willing to offend her. ex.: Roosh V concluding that he'd rather argue with Norwegian women than fuck them.)
the man she wants: immediately agrees with her remarks (reality: man is focused on grinding relationship points to get in her pants, doesn't care what she's saying)

She's filtering for something but it isn't what she thinks it is.