@matana
>hen I hear men complaining about their wives asking them to do their part in the family

This one will be anecdotal as usual, but I had this conversation with my step sister:
Her: My husband is not doing his half of cooking, his half of cleaning... I have to do everything myself.
Me: Is he going to work every day?
her: Well yes, but...

But I don't doubt you had a similar problem from the other side. Relationships are complicated after all.