too many ppl, and pretty much all faux trads do not realize that their idealized child raising model where you care about the fine details of their overall development is incredibly recent
before that you were either too poor, so children were at best additional workforce in the family and at worst a liability you literally can't afford to feed; or rich enough to not give a shit about your children ever and outsource them to nannies or just a boarding school
and no matter whether you're rich or poor, your kids are not guaranteed to live to see their 5th birthday so better not to get attached to them too much
@tomie
Yes, I often think about this, especially when it comes to mandated over-scheduled lifestyle till the age of 25, and the absolute lack of connection to both family and society made by this sort of regime.
This "additional workforce" ironically enough made the kid into one of your peers quite early.
@tomie
I don't expect you to understand this difference.
@LukeAlmighty well, you live in some alternative lalaland where bears are somehow more dangerous than men, so no wonder
@tomie
Yes, especially to women.
@LukeAlmighty peers? lmao no, the kids were absolutely property (in the same way as women)
then, depending on luck or the lack of it, your property was bought by another family if you had girls; or your lords took away your sons as what now would be their property