@Robert_Edwardly @ChristiJunior @alyx @matrix Because most people's image of a gay man is a California twink, not a man who just happens to like men.
>Do you have to signal to other dudes that you're gay?
I want to be mad about this question but this is such a problem because it's either "we thought you were autistic" or "wait, you're not bi?"
>the gaydar just well attuned
Common misconception. There's no gaydar, there is, however, an aggressively overactive "PLEASE BE GAY"-dar.
>In all meanings of the word
I assure you I'm not at all flashy, colorful, or cheerful.