@matrix >25 is OLD! this is correct. He's nearly 10 years behind healthy developmental goals. >It's over for me! this is incorrect. He will continue to live, and as he lives his perspective will change. To be "nearly 10 years behind" will feel like an enviable outcome already at 15 years, then 20 years, 30 years. However far you you walk down the wrong path, you'll wish you had taken another path at an earlier stage where you'd decided it was already too late to change.
this is correct. He's nearly 10 years behind healthy developmental goals.
>It's over for me!
this is incorrect. He will continue to live, and as he lives his perspective will change. To be "nearly 10 years behind" will feel like an enviable outcome already at 15 years, then 20 years, 30 years. However far you you walk down the wrong path, you'll wish you had taken another path at an earlier stage where you'd decided it was already too late to change.