@Immahnoob everyone saying this is missing some extremely key points.
the girl "taking her time" exists in the same body as the girl wanting to devote herself to kotoyuki, the man she was going to be married to in an arranged marriage. the same girl who defended kotoyuki just wanting to be together with her and be happy.
this "taking her time" is not the modern day equivalent of "taking her time." hinako was going to go into a forced marriage because her dad had debts he needed to pay off, and is legitimately scared about getting married due to everything she's seen with her own parents + how she was treated in 1960s JAPAN as a tomboy instead of a little perfect princess.
kotoyuki comes to the realization that, although he is extremely passionate for hinako, they barely actually know each other. they both agree that they need to wait a bit longer before marrying and they begin actually getting to know each other first.
hinako straight up tells kotoyuki "if the love you have for us was real, then i hope we can meet again. we'll think it through, slowly and carefully. we'll have our answer ready."
on top of all of this, if you want to go with the interpretation that the spiritual parts are far more real and not just hallucinated, which as far as i can tell so far the game leaves pretty vague, there is an ancient "spell" that causes kotoyuki to be extremely invested in hinako. he says that he wants to make sure his love for her is actually real and not just some spell binding them. reminds me a little bit of the witcher with yennefer and geralt actually.
the more "hallucination" interpretation of this would be that the "spell" is his strict mother (which is a whole other aspect of this story) and hinako's parents both trying to get them married, and that pressure to do so is hastening the pace so it feels like a spell has been cast.
people are looking at this game through way too much of a modern day political lens, absolutely brain rotted by other actually woke games. there is so much focus on hinako being some girlboss or something like that without taking *any* of the extra context in.
i don't know if people just have not gone through anything even remotely similar to what hinako has and so they just don't get it, or they are lacking something that lets them empathize with the character, or if they do empathize with the character and are just distancing themselves, or what. i'm sure the vast majority of people talking about it haven't played the game, haven't dove into the story as was intended by the writer, and are probably just being reactionary as a defense mechanism. youtubers doing it are probably just ragebaiting, whether they know it or not.