YZZAJ @Jazzy_Butts@gameliberty.club
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one of my normie friends told me "you're not even problematic" 😭 im gonna frame that and hang it on my wall right next to the map and zoo flags one day
Fiction/Fantasy
Brown women with muscular legs are perfect rape meat
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If you met me at a meet would you be my friend or would you hate me because of my posts?
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Lincoln just casually manipulating his older brothers into satisfying his gay boi needs. #tlh #theloudhouse #lincoln #lincolnloud #femboy #nsfw
Me: Oh wow, the ethot is saying flirtatious things and posting shiney nudes??? *click*
Me: Oh, that's a human male penis in her that's not mine....now I'm mad >:(
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Amethyst is like the perfect size and height for standing titty fucks #su #stevenuniverse #amethyst #nsfw
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Long Post
I've been saying I'd be posting about my journey to better mental health and a more full sense of happiness, and so here it is!
One of the keys, I'm discovering, to a more lasting sense of happiness comes from decompressing emotions in order to think more clearly and in a healthier way. Our thoughts are some of the most powerful tools we have to help guide our state of being, our actions, our words, etc.
This is where cognitive reframing comes in as one of the most effective coping skills that I can learn.
What is "cognitive reframing?" It is literally changing your thoughts. By making a cognitive shift in your mind you are better able to look at the world and the situation in a different way (the goal is in a more constructive way) identify the problem, fix it, and actually become happier.
This has become increasingly difficult in modern society, we have lost sight of HOW to think. Considering the ease with which we can just escape to social media, YT shorts, TikTok, games, alcohol, drugs, etc (And none of those things are bad on their own) we've substituted "turning our brains off" for "dealing with our thoughts." I'm guilty of this! I'll usually play games, or scroll fedi so I can just turn my brain off for a bit.
My next question was how the hell do I cultivate the right thinking?. First I had to start by better understanding the sequence of thinking > emotions > being unhappy.
Usually it all starts with a thought (No one loves me, I'm going to always be alone, I'm awkward, etc...), and that is followed by a resulting emotion. Negative thoughts usually start first, that sparks an emotion, then more negative thoughts spawn, wash, rinse, repeat. Negative thought loops.
I can't tell you how many times I've been trying to sleep, or sitting quietly and I can't stop thinking about all the shit I feel. And all I want to do is just...stop. Stop thinking. Stop the pain. Instinctively I know that thinking is the problem. Enter unhealthy coping mechanisms to stop the thoughts.
So that's the sequence. Thought > emotion > more thoughts we can't break out of > depression/anxiety/unhappiness/etc...
Here's what I'm using to break that cycle:
I'm dipping into a bit of Yogic practice here in using Mantras. Which is engaging with a particular thought repeatedly. Most people believe that a mantra is chanted out loud, however that weakens its power, according to Yogic teachings. The key is to whisper the mantra under your breath, and the power will increase significantly. The point is to repeat the thought we want to engage with, quietly, and to ourselves.
The neuroscientific correlation to this is that when we say stuff out loud, we don't pay super close attention to what we're saying. We're not necessarily listen to ourselves. However, when we subvocalize (whisper/mutter stuff to ourselves), we engage a completely different part of the brain (frontal lobes). This is the part of the brain that's responsible for directing our behavior and controlling the other parts of our brain! So muttering to myself allows whatever I'm saying to sink deeper within my consciousness, and better shape my thoughts. I mean it makes sense because I'm literally talking to myself!
How does this help me cognitively reframe my situation? I imagine I'm talking with a friend. It helps with being encouraging and compassionate (because I'm more forgiving and encouraging with friends and loved ones and a complete asshole to myself). I tell myself what I would tell my friends while going through the same situation. And no I'm not talking about the "Be positive/Look at the silver lining" type of bullshit messages that most virtue-signaling-toxic-positivity influencers would spout. I'm talking real life advice. "Hey, it sucks. I get it. Your pain is real. But this pain doesn't define you and it isn't everything in your life. As long as you're breathing, there's a chance to do better, to be better. Get up, walk. Crawl if you have to. Do the next right thing. Struggle, fight, and win." That and a few other affirming messages are what work for me.
But now comes part two! Learning how to ignore the negative part of my brain that will really fight the shift to positivity. This is where I've lost countless times in the past because the negative part of my brain is stubborn as FUCK! What I've realized is that I don't NEED to argue or fight with the negative part of my brain. All I need to do is subvocalize (mutter my mantras to myself). I ignore the negative part of my brain and subvocalize and it quickly quiets down and allows the positive reframing to take hold. I inject positive thoughts into my mind where they start to live and grow.
I've been doing that all day today and it has been helping. I haven't engaged in a negative thought loop yet. I'm going to keep going on with this method and keep you all posted on progress. Maybe this might help some of you too. Who knows!
One of the keys, I'm discovering, to a more lasting sense of happiness comes from decompressing emotions in order to think more clearly and in a healthier way. Our thoughts are some of the most powerful tools we have to help guide our state of being, our actions, our words, etc.
This is where cognitive reframing comes in as one of the most effective coping skills that I can learn.
What is "cognitive reframing?" It is literally changing your thoughts. By making a cognitive shift in your mind you are better able to look at the world and the situation in a different way (the goal is in a more constructive way) identify the problem, fix it, and actually become happier.
This has become increasingly difficult in modern society, we have lost sight of HOW to think. Considering the ease with which we can just escape to social media, YT shorts, TikTok, games, alcohol, drugs, etc (And none of those things are bad on their own) we've substituted "turning our brains off" for "dealing with our thoughts." I'm guilty of this! I'll usually play games, or scroll fedi so I can just turn my brain off for a bit.
My next question was how the hell do I cultivate the right thinking?. First I had to start by better understanding the sequence of thinking > emotions > being unhappy.
Usually it all starts with a thought (No one loves me, I'm going to always be alone, I'm awkward, etc...), and that is followed by a resulting emotion. Negative thoughts usually start first, that sparks an emotion, then more negative thoughts spawn, wash, rinse, repeat. Negative thought loops.
I can't tell you how many times I've been trying to sleep, or sitting quietly and I can't stop thinking about all the shit I feel. And all I want to do is just...stop. Stop thinking. Stop the pain. Instinctively I know that thinking is the problem. Enter unhealthy coping mechanisms to stop the thoughts.
So that's the sequence. Thought > emotion > more thoughts we can't break out of > depression/anxiety/unhappiness/etc...
Here's what I'm using to break that cycle:
I'm dipping into a bit of Yogic practice here in using Mantras. Which is engaging with a particular thought repeatedly. Most people believe that a mantra is chanted out loud, however that weakens its power, according to Yogic teachings. The key is to whisper the mantra under your breath, and the power will increase significantly. The point is to repeat the thought we want to engage with, quietly, and to ourselves.
The neuroscientific correlation to this is that when we say stuff out loud, we don't pay super close attention to what we're saying. We're not necessarily listen to ourselves. However, when we subvocalize (whisper/mutter stuff to ourselves), we engage a completely different part of the brain (frontal lobes). This is the part of the brain that's responsible for directing our behavior and controlling the other parts of our brain! So muttering to myself allows whatever I'm saying to sink deeper within my consciousness, and better shape my thoughts. I mean it makes sense because I'm literally talking to myself!
How does this help me cognitively reframe my situation? I imagine I'm talking with a friend. It helps with being encouraging and compassionate (because I'm more forgiving and encouraging with friends and loved ones and a complete asshole to myself). I tell myself what I would tell my friends while going through the same situation. And no I'm not talking about the "Be positive/Look at the silver lining" type of bullshit messages that most virtue-signaling-toxic-positivity influencers would spout. I'm talking real life advice. "Hey, it sucks. I get it. Your pain is real. But this pain doesn't define you and it isn't everything in your life. As long as you're breathing, there's a chance to do better, to be better. Get up, walk. Crawl if you have to. Do the next right thing. Struggle, fight, and win." That and a few other affirming messages are what work for me.
But now comes part two! Learning how to ignore the negative part of my brain that will really fight the shift to positivity. This is where I've lost countless times in the past because the negative part of my brain is stubborn as FUCK! What I've realized is that I don't NEED to argue or fight with the negative part of my brain. All I need to do is subvocalize (mutter my mantras to myself). I ignore the negative part of my brain and subvocalize and it quickly quiets down and allows the positive reframing to take hold. I inject positive thoughts into my mind where they start to live and grow.
I've been doing that all day today and it has been helping. I haven't engaged in a negative thought loop yet. I'm going to keep going on with this method and keep you all posted on progress. Maybe this might help some of you too. Who knows!
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radicalize, or criminalize?
kids are being taken advantage of by adults. we can radicalize and make kids more able to live independent of adult authority. or we can criminalize, just rope off that section of childhood and say that the adult will go to prison if they cross that line
society consistently chooses the second option, and now kids are getting increasingly more stressed and sick and sad and the tension and abuse os ramping up and getting political. at least one *genocide* is using an attack on youth rights as the narrow end of the wedge.
this is completely unsustainable. society is killing the kids in the zeal to "keep them"
kids are being taken advantage of by adults. we can radicalize and make kids more able to live independent of adult authority. or we can criminalize, just rope off that section of childhood and say that the adult will go to prison if they cross that line
society consistently chooses the second option, and now kids are getting increasingly more stressed and sick and sad and the tension and abuse os ramping up and getting political. at least one *genocide* is using an attack on youth rights as the narrow end of the wedge.
this is completely unsustainable. society is killing the kids in the zeal to "keep them"
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From now on I only want to interact with people who agree with me about basic principles, like consent being up to a being, and not up to ablists who try and deny beings agency because they claim those beings are "not as smart".
If you met me at a meet would you be my friend or would you hate me because of my posts?
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My notes on accounts didn't transfer so if you're an anti and we've interacted before but I'm acting like we haven't it's because the note is gone and I can't see that you're a scumbag
And I put all my chex mix into little sandwich baggies so they're portioned so I don't overeat :3 chex mix is bad as an all the time food but it's ok as a treat
Just did some morning cardio for 20 monutes after turning off my phone (addicted) and playing some analog music while I danced.
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Scully struggles to take saintly bilocation seriously. Mulder accidentally offends a phrenologist by ranting about genies.
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If you've never seen Dr Sleep and you like the shining I promise you Dr Sleep doesn't disrespect the original at all. It kind of made me realize that one of King's most used allegories are about child abuse, likely sexual but it is never explicit in his stories. Dr Sleep is no exception. The abusers are a clan of vampire like beings who feed off the suffering of people who "shine", usually children, to do this they inflict massive suffering, the more suffering, the more they can feed. I won't spoil the ending, but the story shows no mercy to these monsters, even after humanizing them, and if it were anyone else's story I would say it's to make us question if our heroes are really good guys themselves, but since it's King I think he just really hates child abusers that much and wants to make their suffering as ugly as possible not to elicit sympathy, but, as one character says to them in the story, "it's what you deserve."
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