I try to explain it to normies by comparing it to the economy. On paper, we're richer than ever! More millionaires than ever before! But that doesn't mean too many people are rich, it just goes to the small core.
Our sociology dept. did all kinds of surveys in college, and it was astounding to see they basically got the meme 80:20 rule, at best. The long and short of it was around 60 to 70% of the women on campus reported sexual activity in the previous month, and about half of that was with a consistent partner (hopefully bf)
Turns out there's effectively a stud corps at the school, because the dudes who were having sex accounted for most of the women, as in the guys that were hooking up were hooking up with 3-4 women on average. Hyperconcentration.
I will say I get the vibe that things have cooled off....women have started to notice the stereotypes about tinder and whores, so they're easing off the throttle just a little bit. There's a sizable number of femcels or inspins-to-be, who don't fit in the hypersexualized dating market and retreat to live like NEETS.
So there is hope!