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@matana @LukeAlmighty i'm not saying it is necessarily a bad thing. if women want to look pretty and feel pretty, even if it causes pain, they can do that if they want. it's pretty obvious that most guys don't give a shit but women do it anyway so they are not doing it to look pretty for guys. it's for self fulfilment, competition, and/or social acceptance, typically.
i'm sure guys do stuff like this too tbh.
i'm just giving a reason as to why luke's step mom doesn't care that he doesn't care. she may think that you're SUPPOSED to have A B and C for the holidays and if you don't you aren't a successful mother and don't have a good family. parents do this kind of shit all the time with their kids too because they're worried that they will be seen as a failure.
@beardalaxy @matana @LukeAlmighty Yep, my mother does this too. Not even on holidays. And it's absurd because every other day it's "this is the LAST time I'm cooking, you all are having PB&J from now on." Dad and I are FINE with that. We call that bluff so much, and it just fuels her rage when she sees it backfire. Maybe sudden realization of being rendered unessential in a thing you've been doing nearly daily for 30+ years comes as a shock when you realize the people who used to rely on you can handle themselves. So there will always just be yelling about it. Just damned if you do, damned if you don't...
I'll laugh at the woman being woman, but also just feel real disappointed. There's a point where it becomes an entirely self-inflicted problem.
@arc @beardalaxy @matana
The worst part is, that I just want her to be happy.
I DON'T WANT HER TO BE STRESSED. That isn't my goal, and she even keeps on implying repeatedly that it is. And it's heartbreaking.