@stefan @rick Bocchi really struck a chord in me because i really was somethin like that... i really AM something like that, and yeah everything despite being very hopeful and lighthearted, i totally understand 100% what bocchi thinks, i identified a bit too with Kuroki Tomoko albeit i wasn't as cringe as her... i think!
The problem of being like this is that you can't really help yourself sink more and more because of the spiral of self destructive feedback that is your mind. Some people jumps out of it on their own and that comendable but a lot of times you really need external help, espceially if you didn't realy had good cemented friendships during that period.
I give that Bocchi at least had the courage to change and stir things up a bit, which made her bump into Nijika which got her out of that rut, but not everyone else has that, i'm afraid.
@Reluctant_Weeb @rick i think good part of the difficulty that people like that (like me) has to initiate relationships is the lack of self esteem, and the lack of self esteem stems from the lack of perceived accomplishments. Despite her being good at the guitar, she has problems with that because i think she didn't had a proper route or path of milestones to gauge her progress.
@rick well, talking to her instead of just staring and pretending nothing bad happens would be a good start.
If i were to have a kid with such problems i would try to help in any meaninful way, of course not by forcing random friends into her life, but mostly trying to put her in situations where it's easier for her to make friends, maybe putting her into some kind of club or fun extra-curricular activities would help... see what interests her and try to make her get together with people that may share her interests, idk.
Sometimes random events like bumping into random strangers help, but not always and they are rare events, and the pasivity of the parents really troubles me.
@LukeAlmighty i saw a diagram that reminded me of this, so i made it, i am looking for the original.
@Mr_NutterButter put a poll at the end of every post with the question "Did you read this post?"
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